Common Myths and Facts

Common Myths and Facts 

 ​​Sexual Misconduct

  • ​​ ​Myth: Victims provoke sexual misconduct when they dress provocatively or act in a promiscuous manner.
  • Fact: Rape and sexual misconduct are crimes of violence and control that stem from a person’s determination to exercise power over another. Neither provocative dress nor promiscuous behaviors are invitations for unwanted sexual activity. Forcing someone to engage in non-consensual sexual activity is sexual assault, regardless of the way that person dresses or acts.

  • Myth: If a person goes to someone’s room or house or goes to a bar, they assume the risk of sexual misconduct. If something happens later, they can’t claim that they were raped or sexually assaulted because they should have known not to go to those places.
  • Fact: This “assumption of risk” wrongfully places the responsibility of the offender’s action with the victim. Even if a person went voluntarily to someone’s home or room and consented to engage in some sexual activity, it does not serve as blanket consent for all sexual activity. When unsure if the other person is comfortable with an elevated level of sexual activity, stop and ask. When someone says “no”, "I don't know" or “stop,” that means “STOP!” Sexual activity forced upon another without valid consent is sexual assault.

  • Myth: It is not sexual misconduct if it happens after drinking or taking drugs.
  • Fact: Being under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs is not an invitation for sexual activity. A person under the influence does not cause others to assault them; others choose to take advantage of the situation and sexually assault them because they are in a vulnerable position. A person who is incapacitated due to the influence of alcohol or drugs is not able to consent to sexual activity.

  • Myth: Most sexual assaults are committed by strangers. It’s not considered rape if the people involved know each other.
  • Fact: Most sexual assaults/batteries and rape are committed by someone the victim knows. A study of sexual victimization of college women showed that about 90% of victims knew the person who sexually victimized them. Most often, a partner, ex-partner, classmate, friend, acquaintance or co-worker sexually victimized the person. It is important to remember that sexual misconduct can occur in both heterosexual, same-gender or non-binary relationships.

  • Myth: Rape can be avoided if people avoid dark alleys or other “dangerous” places where strangers might be hiding or lurking.
  • Fact: Rape and sexual misconduct can occur at any time, in many places, to anyone.

  • Myth: A person who has really been sexually assaulted will be "hysterical."
  • Fact: Victims of sexual violence exhibit a spectrum of responses to the assault which can include: calm, hysteria, withdrawal, anxiety, anger, apathy, denial and shock. Being sexually assaulted is a very traumatic experience. Reaction to the assault and the length of time needed to process through the experience vary with each person. There is no “right way” to react to being sexually assaulted. Assumptions about the way a victim “should act” may be detrimental to the victim because each victim copes in different ways.

  • Myth: All sexual assault victims will report the crime immediately to the police. If they do not report it or delay in reporting it, then they must have changed their minds after it happened, wanted revenge or didn’t want to look like they were sexually active.
  • Fact: There are many reasons why a sexual assault victim may not report the assault to the police or campus officials. It is not easy to talk about being sexually assaulted and can feel very shameful. The experience of retelling what happened may cause the person to relive the trauma. Another reason for delaying a report or not making a report is the fear of retaliation by the offender. There is also the fear of being blamed, not being believed and being required to go through judicial proceedings. Just because a person does not report the sexual assault does not mean it did not happen.

  • Myth: Only "young" or "attractive" women are assaulted.
  • Fact: The belief that only women experience sexual misconduct stems from the myth that it t is based on sex and physical attraction. Sexual misconduct is a crime of power and control. Offenders often choose people whom they perceive as most vulnerable to attack or over whom they believe they can assert power. Men, non-binary individuals and children are also sexually assaulted, as well as persons with disabilities. Assumptions about the “typical” victim might lead others not to report the assault because they do not fit the stereotypical victim.

  • Myth: It’s only rape if the victim puts up a fight and resists.
  • Fact: Many states do not require the victim to resist in order to charge the offender with rape or sexual assault. Those who do not resist may feel if they do so, they will anger their attacker, resulting in more severe injury. Many experts say that victims should trust their instincts and intuition and do what they believe will most likely keep them alive. Not fighting or resisting an attack does not equal consent.

  • Myth: Someone can only be sexually assaulted if a weapon was involved.
  • Fact: In many cases of sexual assault, a weapon is not involved. The offender often uses physical strength, physical violence, intimidation, threats or a combination of these tactics to overpower the victim. Although the presence of a weapon while committing the assault may result in a higher penalty or criminal charge, the absence of a weapon does not mean that the offender cannot be held criminally responsible for a sexual assault.


Sexual Harassment

  • Myth: Sexual harassment is rare.
  • Fact: Sexual harassment is extremely widespread. It touches the lives of 40 to 60 percent of working women, and similar proportions of female students in colleges and universities.

  • Myth: Sexual harassment only happens to women and is perpetrated only by men.
  • Fact: Both men, women and non-binary individuals can be victims or perpetrators of sexual harassment. In addition, sexual harassment may occur between members of the same sex.

  • Myth: The seriousness of sexual harassment has been exaggerated and most so-called harassment is really trivial and harmless flirtation.
  • Fact: Sexual harassment can be devastating. Studies indicate that most harassment has nothing to do with "flirtation" or sincere sexual or social interest. Rather, it is offensive, frightening and insulting. Research shows that survivors are often forced to leave school or jobs to avoid harassment; may experience serious psychological and health-related problems.

  • Myth: Many victims makeup and report stories of sexual harassment to get back at their employers or others who have angered them. 
  • Fact: Research shows that less than one percent of complaints are false. In fact, Complainants rarely file complaints even when they are justified in doing so.

  • Myth: People who are sexually harassed generally provoke harassment by the way they look, dress and behave. 
  • Fact: Harassment does not occur because people dress provocatively or initiate sexual activity in the hope of getting promoted and advancing their careers. Studies have found that victims of sexual harassment vary in physical appearance, type of dress, age, and behavior.

  • Myth: If you ignore harassment, it will go away.
  • Fact: It will not. Research has shown that simply ignoring the behavior is ineffective; harassers generally will not stop on their own. Ignoring such behavior may even be seen as agreement or encouragement.